It's safe to safe that everyone deserves a second chance. No matter how badly that person screws up, giving them a second chance to redeem themselves is undoubtedly the right thing to do. However, it's common this day in age to keeping giving people an unlimited number of chances, hoping that person won't screw up the next time. By the end of it all, the relationship/friendship becomes so unhealthy that you can no longer trust that person in order to give them another chance, thus forever altering that specific relationship/friendship. So, the question that begs to be asks is how many chances should be given before enough is enough? Obviously, the answer varies based upon the situation. I, for one, can easily relate. During my long lasting relationship with a certain someone from 2010 to 2011 (which I've alluded to numerous times on Twitter and in past posts), I continuously made mistakes, and being the excellent friend that she was, she'd consistently forgive me and give me another chance. My main issue at the time was that I wasn't making different mistakes and learning from them, I was repeating the same old ones time and time again. Why she continued to be my friend after the first few times is beyond me, but she'd finally break it off a year ago after I had officially crossed the line. I take full blame for that, but it was shortly thereafter that I was petitioning for one more chance. Of course, I don't deserve to be given another chance by her and probably never will, but I completely understand and have accepted that. Nonetheless, I still continue to hold out for just one more chance, but not from her specifically. This time, I'm asking for one more chance from people who fail to give me one. You see, there's loads of people out there that will hardly give you a chance to get to know you, and just blow you off after they think they know you. Am I waiting for something that may never happen? Quite possibly, but I have faith that everyone gets what they deserve eventually, especially when they least expect it.
While I can't exactly say how many chances should be given before it's time to call it quits, I will say this: If you continue to screw up, don't learn from your mistakes and ask for another chance, chances are you won't get that one more chance because you probably don't deserve it, so it'd be best to just move on. Moreover, if you've been screwed over or screwed out of another chance, then you have every right to ask for that chance back. It's not complaining if you have a purpose and reasoning. Of course, don't center your life around getting that one more chance, as it might never come. Rather, focus your life on creating more chances and giving them, as it's extremely likely you just might get one in return. |
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